When you come to Straight From Hel and leave a comment, I go visit your blog and leave a comment. Each day I also try to visit a few blogs that are new or that I haven’t seen in a while. For those of you who came by here in the last week… before I issue orders… I’m issuing an apology. If I didn’t come to your blog, I wasn’t ignoring you and I apologize. I got flattened by a train.
My older sister, by three years, unexpectedly and suddenly died. For every second of my life she has been with me. And then she wasn’t.
The night she died I was in Washington, D.C. It took me until midnight the next night to get back home. At the same time, my younger sister and her family got in their car in Minnesota and began the drive to Austin. And the next day, my daughter caught a flight home. We had to figure out where to put everyone and then… the memorial. Throughout it all, little things happened, sometimes nutty or frustrating, and I’d think, I have got to call or email Cathy and tell her. Then in a split second, I’d realize I couldn’t do that, ever.
My younger sister and her family and my daughter have gone home now. My husband and son are still here. I’m waiting until I’m alone to let loose and cry ‘cause I know once I start, it’ll be hours before I can stop.
It occurred to me, though, that with my mother and two older sisters now gone, I am the matriarch of the family. So, as the matriarch, I’m issuing two orders.
One: No one in my family is allowed to die before me. That includes my immediate family, all in-laws, nieces and nephews, cousins, aunts and uncles. Period. No one.
Two: Although I am not the matriarch of your family, I order you to not leave condolences. Instead, tell me one good or happy thing going on in your family right now.
Those are my orders. So shall ye obey.
4 weeks ago