tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32918125.post8294607608416369055..comments2023-11-18T03:15:19.102-06:00Comments on Straight From Hel: Second Step to NetworkingHelen Gingerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09794759602654727110noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32918125.post-48389825555328200792011-07-19T13:49:45.275-05:002011-07-19T13:49:45.275-05:00Great post - getting out and listening are both vi...Great post - getting out and listening are both vital. I'm always chatting to total strangers and you know what? It almost always turns out to be a good idea.<br /><a href="http://www.labanan.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Jan Morrison</a>Jan Morrisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01771180344305042855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32918125.post-87869494283751912732011-07-19T07:43:57.603-05:002011-07-19T07:43:57.603-05:00I meet all sorts of interesting people on my stree...I meet all sorts of interesting people on my street corner ... when they are willing to make eye contact, that is.Christopher Hudsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03667548312923348614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32918125.post-45404759074444683212011-07-19T07:19:11.324-05:002011-07-19T07:19:11.324-05:00I hope I don't scare people do dump my book an...I hope I don't scare people do dump my book and flee the store! It's a balance between being friendly and pushy.Theresa Milsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03477761307315565259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32918125.post-646532103566989882011-07-18T17:10:51.638-05:002011-07-18T17:10:51.638-05:00I agree. I try not to be pushy at my signings. One...I agree. I try not to be pushy at my signings. One day I gave my bookmark to a fellow, and we started talking. I found out he was from Alaska, which was where my wip at the time was set. He didn't buy my book, but he helped me a great deal with my research of the area. I consider him a friend. Great post!<br /><br /><a href="http://www.kathiswritingnook.com/" rel="nofollow">Kathi</a>Kathi Oram Petersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11959149321213743448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32918125.post-91648861049346141552011-07-18T12:09:20.818-05:002011-07-18T12:09:20.818-05:00Very good tip, Sia!
You'd better hurry up, Co...Very good tip, Sia!<br /><br />You'd better hurry up, Cold. You have a lot of people waiting.Helen Gingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09794759602654727110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32918125.post-17549784098166439532011-07-18T07:57:35.151-05:002011-07-18T07:57:35.151-05:00Same rules apply to science. And science I know ho...Same rules apply to science. And science I know how to do this in science, I might apply the same approach to writing ... if my so-called novel ever gets finished >:)<br /><br /><a href="http://cold-as-heaven.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Cold As Heaven</a>CA Heavenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07558100567878233142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32918125.post-21824861629858561492011-07-17T23:14:06.832-05:002011-07-17T23:14:06.832-05:00Good point, Helen. Conferences cost some serious d...Good point, Helen. Conferences cost some serious dollars. It makes no sense at all to go and not talk to anyone.<br /><br />I can work a room full of people and was trained to do so (but it wipes me out), but the first thing you can do is get to know the people at your table or sitting beside you. A smile and a warm hello go a long way. Everyone has that in their arsenal.<br /><br />You attend workshops or seminars, make it a point to thank the presenters for their work. You'll have a chance to meet others in the group mulling around them.<br /><br /><a href="http://www.siamckye.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Sia McKye's Thoughts...OVER COFFEE</a>~Sia McKye~https://www.blogger.com/profile/08470562659597351033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32918125.post-50985971445577831232011-07-17T10:29:55.815-05:002011-07-17T10:29:55.815-05:00You're not giving yourself enough credit, Kare...You're not giving yourself enough credit, Karen. You visit other blogs and leave comments. And you're doing a blog tour - that's a big deal. Did you know that you can automatically send a post to your Facebook page whenever you put a post on your blog? And you can also have an automatic tweet sent when you post on your blog. Those are small things, but they add a bit to your online presence.Helen Gingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09794759602654727110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32918125.post-78791156782693209002011-07-16T19:00:52.410-05:002011-07-16T19:00:52.410-05:00Alex, you are very likeable. That's the impres...Alex, you are very likeable. That's the impression I get when I visit your blog.<br /><br />Susan, if you don't already have a group of writer friends close by, start one. Great things can come of that kind of group. You help each other and when one moves forward, the others tend to do so as well since they can see/learn what worked. I think of these groups as support or connect groups.Helen Gingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09794759602654727110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32918125.post-58501082700806762011-07-16T14:30:23.574-05:002011-07-16T14:30:23.574-05:00I wish I could find more conferences nearby. Perha...I wish I could find more conferences nearby. Perhaps when I retire from my day job I'll be able to travel more.Susan Gourley/Kelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02669793865290876168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32918125.post-57174997896578657042011-07-16T12:46:35.433-05:002011-07-16T12:46:35.433-05:00I'm not out there much in the real world, but ...I'm not out there much in the real world, but online, I try to be friendly and talk to others.Alex J. Cavanaughhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09770065693345181702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32918125.post-51291875557922952942011-07-16T12:03:22.596-05:002011-07-16T12:03:22.596-05:00That's interesting, Gayle. I've been to a ...That's interesting, Gayle. I've been to a party of writers where we wore a famous author's name on our backs and we had to guess who we were based on tidbits of info that others gave us.<br /><br />Go for it, Marian!<br /><br />A lot of writers tend to be shy, Jean. At least that's what I've seen. It makes sense since we tend to work alone for many hours each day.Helen Gingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09794759602654727110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32918125.post-35975667035337017862011-07-16T11:30:46.618-05:002011-07-16T11:30:46.618-05:00Very good advice, Helen, especially for those of u...Very good advice, Helen, especially for those of us who are basically shy.Jean Henry Meadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08146960738692672013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32918125.post-72233803843944598042011-07-16T11:27:24.979-05:002011-07-16T11:27:24.979-05:00The nice part about your networking tips is that t...The nice part about your networking tips is that they work perfectly for shy people! Working from #2 to #1, you ask people about themselves and then listen. Not only can you learn things for later use (your expert in something example) or make valuable connections (your agent example), YOU don't have to do any more talking than you're comfortable with! :)<br /><br />One fascinating thing I've learned is how many "worlds" there are out there. Ask an accountant about accounting (which most people think of as a dull occupation) and LISTEN and ask questions, and you'll find a whole world of nuance and pressure and moral ambiguities and forensic opportunities. It's wild!<br /><br />Hmmm.... I think you've just given me a blog post!<br /><br />Marian Allen<br /><a href="http://MarianAllen.com" rel="nofollow">Fantasies, mysteries, comedies, recipes</a>Marian Allenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15842321321484056422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32918125.post-77476726014779185172011-07-16T09:52:21.304-05:002011-07-16T09:52:21.304-05:00I figured this out before I started writing, back ...I figured this out before I started writing, back when I was still fairly shy. I went to two parties where the hostess had tried to get people to mingle. At one party, we given a name badge and asked to write three interesting things about ourselves on it. At the other, a badge with a famous person's name was placed on our back and we had to find out, via Yes or No questions, who we were. Guess which one was more successful at getting us all talking? In general, people don't want to know who you are as much as they want to talk about who they are.Gayle Carlinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15783449240138097315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32918125.post-22632496467552160852011-07-16T09:40:21.256-05:002011-07-16T09:40:21.256-05:00My guess is that there are more of us naturally sh...My guess is that there are more of us naturally shy people out there than there are the naturally outgoing personalities. That's a good thing to keep in mind, I think. We can reach out to each other - and no one is going to bite off our heads.Helen Gingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09794759602654727110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32918125.post-24390359310551942122011-07-16T09:23:31.833-05:002011-07-16T09:23:31.833-05:00You're so right! It's hard as a naturally ...You're so right! It's hard as a naturally shy person, but so important!Jemi Fraserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02214408467456320167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32918125.post-4173110157184873422011-07-16T07:39:44.969-05:002011-07-16T07:39:44.969-05:00Good advice, especially taken with the previous po...Good advice, especially taken with the previous post to listen. Engaging with others is such a two-way activity.Joannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03972054718663959694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32918125.post-48591311256158470622011-07-16T07:22:43.511-05:002011-07-16T07:22:43.511-05:00For most of us, this is not easy. I've gotten ...For most of us, this is not easy. I've gotten less shy over the years, but there are some who are just naturally outgoing (like my husband). The rest of us, though, can do it.Helen Gingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09794759602654727110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32918125.post-82734465741390737952011-07-16T06:44:44.571-05:002011-07-16T06:44:44.571-05:00Very excellent points, Helen.Very excellent points, Helen.Lauritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03688820247531607677noreply@blogger.com